Boundaries are not walls. They’re your beaches others can bask on. Not everyone should swim your oceans. ~Victoria Erickson
I’ve never been the best at setting boundaries. Perhaps it’s the people-pleasing middle child in me that struggles to say no or the peacekeeping Libra in me that’s always looking to make everyone happy. Or maybe it’s because I’m super sensitive and even when someone has hurt me, I have a hard time not prioritizing their feelings over my own.
For the longest time, setting boundaries felt selfish and insensitive to me. Which is ironic because it never felt that way to encourage others to set necessary boundaries around the exact same situations that I failed to!
But my views on this have changed, and I’m getting better at drawing boundaries and not feeling guilty for it. Because I’ve learned that healthy boundaries establish trust and help build healthy relationships. And that they create the space and time for you to flourish and to achieve your dreams.
I like the poetic way that Victoria Erickson described this. Because boundaries really are a way to keep at bay the things that tend to drown you rather than to help you stay afloat.
What do you think? How are you at setting boundaries?